Why does jealousy happen?

Merriam Webster describes jealousy as unpleasant, suspicion or apprehension of rivalry. Envy means discontented longing for someone else’s assets. One might essentially use these two words as if they were interchangeable. The words are scarcely identical.

Distrustful people view the world from a negative perspective and are incapable of rational thought. The grass always looks greener on the other side because they haven’t watered their own gardens. They recognize these short-comings but neglect making improvements, instead blame others. Many are selfish with low self worth and want to extinguish anyone whose light shines a fragment.

When someone is envious, it’s difficult to discern or fathom. Their admiration turns into a competition and covetousness. It’s absurd to blame yourself. We must be accountable for our own behavior. The answer is empathy. When you are empathic and loving, you’re clueless to any competition in that relationship (e.g., love blinded her). But you have an unknown adversary who’ve placed you on a metaphorical pedestal. And your prevailing only fuels negative actions. Thus, being nice will not help because they’re harboring hatred. It may be a close friend, neighbor, relative, co-worker or a total stranger. Anyone is capable of destructive behavior when emotional intelligence goes unchecked. Distancing yourself works best.

Healing

The way we view ourself differs from how others see us. Our imagination influences everything we do and who we want to become. Positive mental chatter or thoughts build confidence. Do you speak victory into your life and act with a positive mental attitude?

My opinion of Cherlynn was far better than the one she had of herself. Life is about fostering good relationships. Jealousy is destructive, it hurts relationships and destroys the person who harbors it.

Learn to improve upon those areas where you are weak. Focus on self-care. Respect yourself by following through on self-made promises. Celebrate the small and large accomplishments with supportive people. The more you move away from things that harm you, the better you will feel and the healthier you will become. No one can see it for you.

Psychotherapy is often an effective treatment for jealousy. A person who experiences jealousy might benefit from working with a therapist to process painful emotions and reframe negative, damaging thoughts that affect their behavior.

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